“How can I share my hurt feelings with my spouse without causing him to become defensive?”
This question taps into the very heart of the Secure Marriage concepts. The idea of having a Secure Marriage is, “We can talk about hard things and we will be okay. We will be secure no matter what we have to deal with.”
When you need to have a hard conversations with your spouse, there are a few key things you can do to help it go well.
- Take responsibility for how you share – Posture Attitude and Tone (PAT)
- Choose the appropriate timing to share – not in the car on the way to a special event
- Address the marriage first – “Our relationship is more important than the topic.”
Listen to this week’s episode to hear a more in-depth description of those three things, so that you can start using them the next time you need to have a hard conversation with your spouse.