The holiday season isn’t always the easiest, especially when it involves extended family. Old conflicts… Unresolved tensions… Unspoken expectations… all of these lead to stress and frustration. And who usually gets the brunt of your distress? Yep. Your husband or wife.

To avoid hurting each other this holiday season, we’ve put together a short list of easy-to-do things that will keep you from killing each other or your crazy relatives. (You’re welcome). We hope you enjoy.