Today I heard one of the best descriptions of the very essence of Secure Marriage. It’s from Greg Smalley’s book, Before You Plan Your Wedding… Plan Your Marriage. In the book, Greg writes:

“When you feel safe in a relationship, you naturally open your heart and reveal who you really are. That’s the very definition of intimacy. It’s feeling free to open up and reveal who you really are, knowing that the other person will still love, accept, and value you. In other words, you hold your heart out to the person and say, “Here is who I am emotionally, psychologically, spiritually, and mentally. I want you to know my heart and my soul. I want you to get to know who I am and appreciate who I am and value who I am. I am a very fascinating person who will take you more than one lifetime to understand. But, I am not going to offer my heart to you or reveal who I really am if I don’t feel safe.””

Building a Secure Marriage is THE foundational skill to every other relationship skill set. Before communication improves, you have to make sure your spouse feels safe.

Before sex and intimacy improves, you have to make sure they feel secure in your acceptance of them.

Before money, or parenting, or family, or faith, or job stuff improves, you have to make sure your spouse KNOWS their emotional and relational safety is the highest priority to you.

Yes, the other stuff takes time to work on too. But you’ll be spinning your wheels if you don’t start with creating a Secure Marriage state.

HOW To Build A Secure Marriage

I know how difficult it can be to actually build a Secure Marriage. Saying you need to build emotional safety is one thing. Actually doing it is a whole ‘nother thing.

But it isn’t a mystery.

Nothing makes me happier than getting the whole collection of Secure Marriage’s videos, tools, resources, and step-by-step instructions into your hands to show you exactly where to start.

It’s something you can begin TODAY so you can starts seeing results tomorrow.